Wednesday, April 5, 2017

D - 5 ways to deal with Dejection

We all have been dejected at some point in life – it could be over scores during the school time, over a rejected proposal as we grew older, over the inability to get through that coveted job interview, over the delayed conception…the instances are too many! But what’s life without these downs? These are the phases that give you the chance to spring right back! Easier said, I know, because if one happens to be going through that phase right now, the well seems too deep to be able to jump out.

Well, don't lose hope yet! Here are five ways in which you can help yourself cope with dejection.

It’s not the end of the world!
It’s very important to keep telling yourself this, till you convince yourself. No event is so hopeless in itself that it should signal the end of the world for you. There are ways to come out of every bad situation, help is always available, you have to just look for it.  It is difficult to believe this when you are down and out, but when you look back at this incident a few years from now, you’ll realise how true that is.

Don’t bottle up.
When in dejection, share the pain. Find someone you trust, a family member, a friend, a professional helper, and share what you feel. When you share, the other person might help you look at things from a different perspective. They might give ideas to do things better. They might suggest ways where you thought there were none.

Move on.
What’s happened has happened. You cannot change it. Don’t keep replaying the events. Work towards what you can do, rather than what you should have done. Don’t wallow in self-pity and don’t be consumed by guilt. Think of the lessons you learnt from it.

Stay occupied.
An idle mind, is a devil’s workshop’. Don’t let your mind become one. Your mind needs a distraction. Give it something else to stay occupied with. Spend time with your friends, go shopping, travel, join the gym, take up a hobby, or learn something new. It will give your mind a break and let you spring back rejuvenated.

Seek professional help.
I don’t only mean a psychologist. Yes, if you are having trouble coping, seek the help of a counsellor. But also seek the help of professionals who can help you win. A tutor, a specialist, a skill-developer, a personality developer or whatever you are having trouble with. Just being dejected is not going to help, is it? You have to work towards taking yourself forward.

No one can help you better than you can. So, get up, gear up, and get going! Don’t let the small hurdles stop you.  



  1. "This too shall pass" is what we need to remember in such times. Moving on can seem extremely challenging, but it has to be done. Keeping busy works best.
    All good pointers there, Princess!
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  2. It always helps to remember that the phase is not important. No matter how hard life seems at that time, it will change. Good tips once again :)

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  3. Staying occupied is the most important tip here, I think. If the other things take a bit of time to make you feel better, staying occupied works instantly.

  4. I completely agree with the Stay Occupied. It is the most important thing to do.
    And staying calm. Panic causes many mistakes.
    Very helpful post, Shubhangi. I hope a lot of people read it and benefit from it.


  5. All said and done its we who can walk out of dejection with or without help. Keep oneself motivated and believing in the sinusoidal nature of life helps, you have summed up the 5 point advice so well..sharing it so that it reaches the needy :)

  6. As long as the dejection is not chronic or clinical depression, these are very useful tips to follow. In addition to academics, life skills need to be integrated into every school curriculum to help kids deal with real-world disappointments.

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  7. Helpful and encouraging post. We need to stay calm whatever the situation is. Hard but necessary.

  8. Valid points there... Nothing is permanent is a good philosophy to stick to that will help one to deal with dejections in life

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  9. Seeking professional help is the most difficult thing I guess! Not being used to this system, a lot of us hesitate in seeking it! Being busy is the best remedy I feel!


  10. Well, these are good advices.

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  11. great advises, it's a bad thing to be dejected :(

  12. When things dont work out as per our expectations, it is so easy to feel dejected and lose hope. But we must remember that everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end!!

  13. I should show this article to my sister. She feels really sad when things don;t work out as per her plans. How I fell she realizes that it's not the end of the world!
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