Tuesday, June 6, 2017

Does time heal?

Time heals, they say!  Little do they know the meanderings of the nimble heart and the fickle mind. They tease and challenge one another, and they tear and scream but there are days when they leave no trace of that animosity. It is almost as if they are conniving to work in tandem. While the heart will nurse so many wounds that healing becomes impossible, the mind will keep the wounds fresh by scratching them periodically, never letting the healing process to begin.  How long is long enough to know it's time for the healing to begin? Honestly, I don’t think there’s an answer to that.

It’s funny how you never let go of the memories, of the times gone by. And everything you do is a constant reminder of the past, no matter how good, bad or ugly it had been.  The game of blame, the passing of bucks, the if onlys and what ifs, the rewinding of the memory tapes, and replaying it with a better ending each time. The scratching of the wounds never really stops, does it?

You try to think what you could have done differently, what you could have done better, and how you could have reacted - the possibilities are numerous and the outcomes are as numerous as the possibilities. Sometimes, you see endings just like the way you envisioned them to be, but mostly, the endings are the same – a reflection of the present. There are times when you hate the circumstances more than the person responsible for it and at other times you hate the person with an equal vengeance. Many a time, you hate yourself too.

It’s a cross you have to bear on your own, the burden of shattered dreams, of dark nights and darker days, of loneliness, of tears, and that feeling of futility that never seems to go away.

No, time doesn’t heal. 


  1. This is so true. And unfortunately, sometimes when you think the issue is totally healed something happens to reopen the wound. Then you need to deal with it again. Apple-ginger Tonic. A refreshing drink with oodles of health benefits.

  2. Very true about time having a healing power .But the time needed masks be a lifetime .A thought provoking post .

  3. Time does heal. The sad truth is that no one know the actual dose of it.

  4. What you have said is true. If one keeps scratching the wounds, they will never heal no matter how much the time passes. A lifetime may pass or it may even spill over to the next life. The remedy for the hurt can be getting away from those people who have caused hurt, first physically and later emotionally (emotionally is more important than the physical part), and surrounding oneself with loving people. Love is the antidote of hurt and many a times it may come from the unusual quarters.

  5. Ooooohhh, my dear , that really hit me today. Wonderful thoughts and text. I think in some way time doesnt hela, but you find a way to live with the sorrow/pain/loss/.... but it is there. Time can make it easier, but it will always be a part of you...At least, I feel so. LOVED this post, sweetie:-)

  6. Seriously they say time heals but i don't even agree with it...sometimes the scars are still remain somewhere in your heart and sometimes gives you an hurt feeling


  7. I believe the secret lies not in forgetting the memories, but in trying to live with it. Accepting the past, accepting the fact that there's no turning back. It will hurt for long and that's ok. We live with it and keep going on. Surrounding ourselves with well wishers and positive thoughts would certainly help.

  8. I do believe that time heals everything but I'm not how much time does it takes to heal the wound?! Sure, the memories attached make the wound more fresh but still I stand by the fact that time heals everything!

    Boisterous Bee

  9. hmmmmmmm well it depends how long that time is .. and as the comment above by Rajlakshmi the secret is to not try to forget but to live with it as its the past its gone.. I dont think we can always forget 100% , at least I cant I remember each and every detail still ..

    You take care ..


  10. I'd like to think that time does heal, Shubhangi. It's difficult and takes effort but after a while you learn to let go and focus on the things that matter, things that make you happy and feel grateful. Especially in the social media era, it is easy to stay angry and bitter. I hope we can make a choice to let time heal us instead.

  11. Time heals it all, but the problem is we seldom allow time to heal...


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