If you noticed, I said, 5 ‘reasons’ to overcome fear and not 5 ‘ways’ to overcome fear. I am somehow convinced that if the reasons are good enough, people will know how to find a way by themselves.
By fear, I do not mean the fear of anything living or imagined -like the fear of ghosts or the paranormal, insects, heights etc.
What I do mean is the fear of failure, of being judged by others, of not finding approval, of being perceived as different. This fear is capable of holding us captive, so much, that while we keep contemplating whether we should or not, our entire life passes by!
What ‘they’ think is none of our business!
Not everyone will have your best interest at heart. People will always tell you, If I were you, I would have done it this way...if I were you, I would have behaved like that…But that’s exactly the point. You aren’t them. And that gives you the freedom to do things exactly the way you like to do it. You cannot do it their way, or someone else’s way. What works for them will not work for you.
There are people who genuinely care for you, but they will love you irrespective of what you do. And those whose opinions you fear, they will judge you, no matter what you do!
It’s okay not to be perfect.
Don’t be obsessed with the idea of perfection. You don’t have to be perfect all the time. You don’t have to get yourself evaluated by others. It’s okay to commit mistakes, learn from them and correct them. You don’t have to beat yourself up over it because you think you might have let someone down. Most of the times, it is this fear of not being perfect that makes you worry about other people’s reactions.
It's Okay to fail.
When you take too much advice from others, you will ultimately suffer. It is you who will have to face the consequences of your actions, not people who advised you. Once choices are made, you will be stuck with them forever.
So, trust yourself. Trust your instincts more than you trust others. It helps you to be more responsible for your actions. And if you do make mistakes, you will have to blame no one else. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you from trying.
You know what’s best.
You know your strengths and weaknesses better than anyone else. You know what your dreams are. You alone know how passionate you are about them. No one else can understand your dreams and passions. No one else can be as invested in your life as you are. Then, why are you so scared to put your best foot forward? It’s your journey and you alone know what your struggle is all about.
Life is too short to live in fear.
Life is too short to live in fear. Think of a year from now. Think of five years. Will you be able to live in peace if you knew you gave up because you were scared of being judged? Or because you feared failure? Or would you rather look back and want to give yourself a pat because you tried and succeeded? Well, even if you failed, what if you are dead a year from now? Isn’t the idea of dying with unfulfilled dreams a lot worse than surrendering to your fear?
What do you think?
This is all my blog is about you know, being real and not perfect! Love your post
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Life is too short to live in fear, to not try new things and experience new adventures. But sometimes you need a push... A final push to actually overcome fear... Always good to have some well wishers around in those cases. Wonderful points.
ReplyDeleteFear holds us back in so many ways. Fear of being ridiculed is one of them for most people. I'd still suggest that you take the advice from those you trust and of course, go with your gut, when it comes to overcoming fear. As a child, especially, you may not know how to overcome failure, so it helps to be open to feedback :)
ReplyDeleteThis is something I needed to read. Fear is something I carry with me most of the times. I just have keep these things in my mind and convince myself to let go of the fear!
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We all love with fears of some sort in our life .I have the fear of losing my loved ones. I do try to make a conscious effort to overcome it but still they creep at most times. agree with you life is too short to live in fear .why not I just enjoy my time with my loved ones rather than living in fears ?
ReplyDeleteHonestly I fear dear. I try to overcome it several times and I do manage but I fell in the trap again. But like you said its better to try and die rather than perishing without trying :)
ReplyDeletewhenever I feel fearful I remind myself that irrational fear is simply false evidence appearing real. works most of the time.
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Points 3 and 5 resonated deeply with me. Life really is to short to spend in fear. And even if you fail at what you were trying to do, you will gain the knowledge right?
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Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com
The whole post is so relevant. People will always be there offering their unsolicited advice and If-I-were-you's. Up to us whether we want to take it or not.
ReplyDeleteThat said, there are so many times when I'm held back by fear. I need to make an effort to believe in myself.
I relate with all the points here. I think it's quite okay to be you, no matter how you are. It's important to be comfortable in one's own skin.
ReplyDeleteYou are right.... We cant let others opinions rule our lives as they are usually given without much thinking :)
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Loved it and especially loved 'the life is too short to live in fear." Good points.
ReplyDeleteI like a lot your post today. Especially the first point I agree. And, of course, the last one.
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Eva - Mail Adventures
Knowing all of this and yet not being able to follow any of it when the fear is at our doorsteps!
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BoisterousBee
Fear holds us back in al many ways, yet more often than not, it's absolutely baseless. But even knowing that, sometimes, we just can't seem to get over it, eh?
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Modern Gypsy
Absolutely essential life lessons these are. Fear in the end is the biggest killer of dreams.
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Life is definitely too short to live in fear...yet we sometimes succumb to the pressure. Great thoughts, Shubhangi!
ReplyDeleteWell said. Life is too short to live in fear. Fear puts boundaries around us and it restricts our life. And when we do that, we are not living.
ReplyDeletethis is exactly what they teach us in "art of living" discourses. These are the life lessons, which i strongly believe that has to be instilled in the minds of younger generation.Yes, it is absolutely ok to fail, but one has to learn from those failures and one have to march forward. One should also know, that these failures are consequences of the choices that they have made earlier, hence, if the said choice did not work well, the need of correction becomes imperative.
ReplyDeleteThe next point here i personally practice is acknowledging the fact of "no perfect situation". Obviously, corporate life has taught me this life-lesson.
Failure, only lets you chose your next right move. So be sensible to understand that there are no failures. :)
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