Wednesday, December 7, 2016


I was speaking to a friend of many years, over 15 years to be precise. Jakes and I had worked together for 8 years and kept in touch for 7 years thereafter. After a longish conversation as always, he said, ‘Over the years, people have come, and people have gone, some stayed friends even after they were gone, but somehow, you are one person I am most comfortable conversing and being with and enjoy talking to.’  

Needless to say, I was touched.

While I was ruminating over the feeling of warmth he had left me with, I went a couple of years down memory lane.

During my last visit to Nagpur, I met my best friend’s Pavi’s father whom I hadn’t met for more than 12 years, ever since I left the city and migrated to Bangalore. I have known him from ever since I was in kindergarten; Pavi and I have grown up together. ‘You have forgotten me, Ambi uncle,’ I chided him, not having heard from him for long. To that, he smiled, and nodded his head. ‘Every morning when I pray, apart from my own family members, I pray for the well-being and happiness of 5 other people; a couple of my friends, one of Raghu’s (his son) friend, and two of Pavi’s friends. You are one of those few people who are in my prayers every day,’ he said.  

I have no words to describe how I felt. To know there is someone who keeps you in their prayers every day, is a feeling like no other, isn’t it?

A week ago, my dearest friend Aj, told me that when he was watching the movie, Dear Zindagi, there was this scene where Alia is asked to count her top five friends. And then, he told me that 'I' was in his top three. You can bet, I was deeply humbled and touched!

These three incidents brought me to the realisation that it is not very often that we let our loved ones know that we love them, be they our friends or family. While we are quick to let people know through our actions or words that we hate them or dislike them, we don’t think that love needs to be shown. What a silly notion!

This brought to mind a book I had read some time ago. Titled, ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’ by Mitch Albom, it has a scene where the old man Morrie holds a living funeral for himself. He is on his deathbed, and so he invites friends over so that he can listen to all the nice things they have to say about him. What good would it be if people said all these lovely things about him after he were dead, he reasons.  He wouldn’t be around to hear them out anyway. 

Very deep, and funnily true, don’t you think?

And that, is the reason for this post.

Imagine, if I were dead and gone and then at my funeral, Jakes were to tell my kin how he enjoyed talking to me, how would I even know? How would I be able to enjoy that feeling of being loved? And what difference would it make to my kin?

Imagine if Ambi uncle had never told me that he prayed for my well-being every day, how would I have the opportunity to be grateful for his love. Just knowing that I am in someone’s prayers, gives me immense strength during my days of despair.  

How would I ever know, if he hadn't told me, that Aj held me in such high regard? 

So, beginning today, remember to express how much someone means to you, how much you love someone, and what an amazing difference they make to your life. No one is going to be around forever, neither you nor them. Don’t deprive each other of this feeling of warmth and happiness.

Stay Loved!


  1. Lucky you! and, i absolutely understand how it feels. :) You know why!

  2. Very true, Shubhangi. I agree, we need to express our love for the people we care about more often and not take them for granted. I am guilty of this, and this post is a nice little reminder. Thank you for sharing. :)

  3. Can't tell how much I relate to this post. I met my sister after a decade, that too out of India. We studied together in Pune, she has seen the best and worst of me. She's my Raakhi sister and I called her my sister. We met exactly last Thursday and so much happiness. Life will not stay same always and we gotta make the most of it. I gonna pen this reunion in my diary today. Thanks for that.

  4. You are so fortunate to have well wishers and close friends like them... every one is... and before it's too late it's better to let them know of our love and admiration. What a beautiful message you are passing through this post. Loved the warmth in your words

  5. I know that feeling. It is so heartwarming and beautiful to know that you are in somebody's everyday prayers or that you mean a lot to someone. Agree with you completely, if you have to say something nice, say it NOW!! Such small words can mean a LOT to the other person.

  6. I think thats what we dont do.. we dont tell others how much we love them or care for them .. we should


  7. What a beautiful post this is! I have lost touch of many blogs and I myself didn't write much in the last 2 years, but your blog is on my blog list (of the very few blogs displayed on my blog page) and I read your blog as and when I open my own. Your posts make me feel cheerful and happy about the smallest things in my life and that is something very beautiful that you pass on through your blog. Stay happy, stay blessed


At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person..deep gratitude for those who have lighted the flame within me!! your comments will be appreciated..

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