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Dear Present Self,
Happy Women’s Day!
It seems like an eternity since you were me, and it seems like a miracle that I became you. Little did I imagine that a geeky, bespectacled, girlish, me, would one day turn into a philosophical, mature, you. On this women’s day, here’s what I want to say to you-
At times, I am mighty pleased with what I see and at times I wish there would be more, but I also know that things indeed happened for the best. That, my love, is the first lesson I want you to keep in mind. Things always happen for the best. If you thought you took the wrong course of study and ended up in a wrong profession, it happened so that you could meet the man you eventually fell in love with and married. All events of your life were destined to be and so learn to accept them with gratitude.
Don’t be afraid to do what you want to do, because you are in charge of your life and you can radically change your life whenever you want to. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Learn to sing, take salsa lessons, take those vacations, spend some solo time, go around the world, and do what makes you happy. When your future-self writes to you I hope she has no regret. I hope your future-self says, I am glad you enjoyed your life.
Don’t worry about what people will think and say. People will always have something to say, and there is no reason why you should try so hard to please them. The ones, who truly love you, have been with you through your thick and thin and will always be there for you. I hope you realize who they are. Value them. Spend time with them. Love them.
The scores on your school mark sheet don’t mean a thing today, so don’t push your kids too hard to get that perfect score. Let them have fun and let them have memories. I am sure that today you remember the memorable times you had as ‘me’ more than the marks you scored. Give them memories that they will cherish for their lifetime.
Stop beating yourself over mistakes you have made. It is one thing to be self-critical, but quite another to lose sleep over it. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, forgive others for the hurt they might have caused you, and learn to move on. That’s the only way you will be peaceful. Be kind to yourself.
Value your life. When you were me, I am sure you did not think you’d go so far. Be thankful for every glorious morning you have had since then, and every soulful breath you have taken, for, you don’t know how many you have left. Listen to the birds sing, soak in the sunshine, count the stars, get drenched in the rain, and be a child all over again. These are the only things that will matter. Life is not a race, so you don’t really have to compete with anyone else.
Several years later when your future-self writes to you, I want her to be happy. I want her to tell you that she has no regrets. I want her to thank you for living well.
Remember that you are a brave, confident, kind and beautiful woman, and I want you to be that way, always.
With lots of love,
Your Past self.
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Add to that list this one - if life has brought you to Bangalore, it must be because it is as good a place as Nagpur :P
ReplyDeleteYea Suresh!! Absolutely right! :)
DeleteI do agree great minds think alike. I would love to read what you tell your past self too. Loved the post . And yes I know after reading this that when your future self writes to you, she will be pleased.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the thumbs up, Jaibala! What would I tell my past self? Hmm...food for thought!
DeleteI loved the concept and post ! and yes with the way you have handled yourself i think your future will be very much pleased with you.
ReplyDeleteThanks Ankur! That was such a nice thing to say!
DeleteGood thinking...in general, you don't want to regret anything later on in life.
ReplyDeleteYes Alok, why have regrets?
DeleteOnce again a very different thought process :) . I like the subtlety in your writing style !!
ReplyDeleteAll the best for BAT :)
thanks for your lovely comment Rahul! I'm glad you liked it!
DeleteFirstly, I second Suresh :D
ReplyDeleteSecondly, please get an album to the next meet :P Curious to see the geeky bespectacled you. ;)
And yes, lovely letter and some wonderful advice to the future self :)
hahhaha..yes Vinay will do that! provided you don't make me write the imposition, ''I love Bangalore'' next time...!! thanks bud!
DeleteBeautifully written letter, Titli. The quietness and gentle-ness of your words is very appealing. The lessons our past self (or selves) have to teach us are so precious. The question always is - is our present self ready to learn? :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Beloo! the past does have a lot to teach us...and we would do good if we just took those lessons and moved on...which again, is the hardest thing to do!
DeleteExcellent piece with lucid thoughts and nice language. I hope a future me will not disappoint the current me, but I also realise there is no past or future - there is only now. And if i can live my NOW to the fullest, there's no way a 40 year old Shreyasi would be unhappy. I owe it to her :-)
ReplyDeleteATB for BAT! :-)
Thanks for your wonderful comment Shreyasi! Indeed, we owe it to ourselves to live a happy and contented life.
Deletenicely expressed, it fills the reader with positivity and yes it is important to be yourself in any situation.
ReplyDeleteMy Blogaton post Letter of A Girl
Thanks Cifar!
DeleteNice ... good portrayal :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks Mitra!
DeleteI second C S and Leo, very beautiful letter Titli. I think this edition has brought out the best of write-ups from our team! Let all the good luck be with you for BAT!
ReplyDeleteAnd, yes, when I come back to Bangalore, I hope to meet you at CS place.
Someone is Special
Thanks Sarav, I agree, all the entries are awesome and very creative!!
Deleteand yea..we'll surely meet up!
Titli,
ReplyDeleteThe shift of girl into a woman is phenomenal, rather an antithetical carelessness to maturity. The letter is very distinct and I can mostly relate to things you've pointed.
Good luck for BAT. =)
Thanks Prunzaye, I'm glad you could relate to it...it's every one's story, I guess!
DeleteA good, sensible letter! One your kids will also appreciate!
ReplyDeleteThanks Roshni!
DeleteA very positive approach and well written. All the best.
ReplyDeleteSo wonderful! Positive words here :)
ReplyDeleteWe would all love such nice letters!
Best wishes for BAT :)
I like to think of life as precious and enjoy life by moment .. but then reality hits .. just kidding.. Good inspiring words ..Nice
ReplyDeleteAll the best for BATOM
Hi. Am glad and happy to have known the past You. Remember we got acquainted in that past self of yours, to be thick friends in your present self. You are an amazing free thinking woman and very positive too. Looking forward to hear what your future self has to say to you in the next letter.
ReplyDeleteYeah.. yeah.it may take a few more years.
Loved reading your post! All the best for BAT.
ReplyDeleteA beautiful post. We need to remind ourselves of few things every now and then.
ReplyDeleteI have also realised no use beating yourself about the mistakes .. i think its the mistakes we make that have made us who we are if not for them we wud not be what we are now ..
ReplyDeletelovely post Mam :)
Bikram's
A very rational and a mature advice from the past self to the present! In fact this is one letter that needs to be read every now and then, to inspire and to re-awaken us!
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